Whilst doing the ironing Friday lunchtime, with Loose Women droning on in the background, my ears soon pricked up when the ladies started to discuss being Forty.
Zoe, one of the panel, had her fortieth birthday the day before, so a discussion ensued as to how she felt about turning the big Four 0!
Carole McGiffin said she went mad when she turned forty, going out drinking and having a wild time (which she still does, having just turned 50), which of course is easy to do, when you don't have kids! whilst I think others can find it quite upsetting. Often a realisation that you may not have that long left in this world can kick in and cause depression . I think a lot of it depends on how happy and content you are in other area's of your life and if you have a party planned, then the excitement of that, can take over and stop you feeling maudlin, it certainly did when I had mine.
More often than not, you may feel a little lost whilst in this age bracket, as your children leave home or go to University. I feel so lucky that I also have a 9 year old as well as the three older children, because I think I would feel lost without him and having a youngish child in your forties, certainly helps to make you feel younger! Last week 2 of the girls were on holiday abroad and 1 stayed at a Uni friends and it felt horrible, just me and little man.
I also think a lot of women suffer a loss of confidence and start to question who they really are. I have often talked about being caught up in a fashion wilderness on the blog, and I think clothing is big grey area and that lots of us worry about what we wear and whether certain garments are now, too young for us.
Many women will put on weight as our metabolism slows once we turn forty and that can be difficult to cope with especially when you do everything right and eat healthily, but just can't shift the pounds that creep on slowly with each passing year!
We look at ageing celebrities who look fantastic and that only adds to our insecurities, but it shouldn't. Women like Cindy Crawford, Elle Macpherson, Sarah Jessica Parker etc, probably have incredibly small meals delivered, if they eat at all and they have personal trainers and stylists or as in Elle's case, they may take Rhino Horn supplement, which has got her into all sorts of problems with the press regarding the fact that the Chinese Medicinal Supplement comes from an endangered species (and probably costs a fortune).
When recently questioned about this, Elle reportedly said "it works for me" and has also said at interviews, her amazing body is all down to the Gene's and to a degree, this is of course true. Who's to say that these women don't suffer even more insecurities than we do, after all, the pressure on them to look good is tremendous and looking good or being slim can mean the difference between them getting work or not and dread the thought that even if they put on a few pounds, the press would be reporting on it with headlines such as "who ate all the pies", that alone would act as an appetite suppressant.
I know it all sounds so bloody depressing but on the plus side according to a recent survey, women in their late thirties/early forties have a much higher sex drive than their younger sisters, so I say "Whoop Whoop" to that!
So whether you are fat, pissed off, menopausal or don't know what to wear without looking like "Mutton dressed as Lamb", at least you can have a bloody good shag!