Monday, 20 January 2014

Style At Every Age

Chloe in my beloved Cos dress (which came home in a right mess but is machine washable thankfully!
I really do believe in the name of this blog, honestly and truthfully I do.  My three daughters (all in their early twenties) and I are living proof of it, with daughter number 2 frequently borrowing my shoes as our feet are the same size and daughter number 1 (above) even more frequently borrowing my clothes.  Number 3 doesn't get a look in, as neither our clothes or shoe sizes are the same, but it just goes to prove that whatever age you may be, there are so many garments that can be worn by women in their twenties as those in their late forties but with some things you really do have to draw the line, well I do.

As I have sailed through my forties I can honestly say there is a great deal of difference in what you wear as you approach forty, to what you wear fast approaching fifty. I remember at my fortieth birthday party, a top and trouser combination I wore at the time even showed a bit of midriff complete with pierced belly button. Three stone heavier and with the piercing removed many, many years ago, I find myself strongly influenced by current trends, the fashion blogs I read and catwalk looks, but have to give myself a good slap in the face over some of the things the lovely ladies of the blogsphere have me lusting after.  First up, the New Balance trainer.



Ever since I bought my thirteen year old son a pair of New Balance trainers last summer, the brand then really took off with fashion types and I have really wanted a pair. Badly. But every time I go to buy a pair all I can imagine is friends of my daughters coming round, seeing me in my beloved trainers and going home whispering about me to the tune of "did you see so and so's mum sitting there in a pair of New Balance, sad old cow ha ha ha". Now I am not normally one to worry about what others think of me, even though I am far more of a sensitive soul than you may think, the thought of footwear ridicule does make me shudder somewhat, hence the fact I still haven't bought any and when the need for a trainer takes over, I put on my sensible satin lace up pumps bought from Jigsaw a few years ago.
laurel, multi-coloured shoe by carvela kurt geiger - women shoes trainers

The same goes for the skate shoe. I have drooled over the out of budget Givenchy and cried over Kenzo versions and more realistically put pairs from Kurt Geiger and Office in my shopping basket on frequent occasions but have still failed to take the plunge and make that purchase.

I know most of you will tell me not to be so silly but think realistically before you do, if you are looking to grow old gracefully with an air of sophistication and a wardrobe full of chic and wearable pieces, what place do these fashion forward footwear pieces have within my shoe collection?

It seems that in my world, style is for every age group but perhaps the latest trends really are not.

23 comments:

  1. I reckon you would look amazing in NB trainers - do it do it do it do it!
    I'm going for some original Adidas trainers (if I can find them) because I loved them first time around and I want/need/desire them even more this time around

    Fiona

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  2. Your post is really interesting, i was chatting to a friend today and her view is slightly different. she was advising another friend who was moaning about feeling 'old' and 'out of touch', her attitude, was don't try to change 'key' wardrobe items, it will be too much of a culture shock. Stick to your jeans and tunic tops, but funky it up with a great pair of trainers or even skater shoes. They won't 'jump out' as looking completely different, but will make you feel a bit more up to date.

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    1. I must say I don't feel in the least bit frumpy, I know I'm not, it's just drawing the line for fear of looking a fool! X

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  3. You know what I'm going to say Sharron don't you? I love the trainers and would just go for it! I always wanted to look sophisticated but it's never happened - guess it's just not meant to be - I'm too haphazard! xx

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  4. I now have a pair in my ASOS basket..... haven't pressed the buy me button yet...... I have similar thoughts to you, I don't think you will look a fool at all...... x

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  5. Go for them Sharron! As you know I have the burgundy ones and they've hardly been off my feet because I think they do make an outfit feel immediately more up to date and dare I say it....they make me feel cool! I am not far off my mid forties and to be honest with you I've never been happier with my wardrobe than I am now! You just have to have the confidence to carry them off!
    p.s I have my eye on those Kurt Geiger Laurels too.....just waiting for a code! xx

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  6. I am in the same boat as you Sharron with Laura being in her twentiesnties and now Sarah has turned 13 and is loving fashion trends also! I do need new trainers though for evening walks when the weather turns warmer with friends as their idea of a walk is more of a trot and something comfortable is needed for me to keep up!! LOL
    ~Anne xx

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  7. Such an interesting blog and yes, one which is discuss regularly on mine - that fine line between mutton and frump. I'm out on the trainers at the mo. partly because I've had them in the back of my mind for eons but have sat on the fence too long, now everyone's doing them and the arsey Aquarian in me screams nooooo! I think if it's something you love then go for it. However if you're not sure, you won't be comfortable in them and will always feel meh. Like you say, there is an alternative. Not a frumpy alternative but one that's a slight variation on a theme. Plus gives you a sense of individuality! My 9 yr old borrows me scarves all the time (not the LV ones mind...!!). You are truly an inspiration love xxx

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  8. I also think you could rock the trainer look Sharron & personally think it's a matter of what you team it with. That said I don't think you can ever beat a stunning ballet pump for a casual chic flat shoe. Jane xx
    www.mymidlifefashion.com

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  9. Go for it Sharron....You can do it!!!! We only live once why have regrets, sod what the "young uns" think, they will be probably be having the same dilemma in years to come xx

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  10. Sharron, I have to say that if I saw you in the street with your peacoat or trench on and a pair of skate shoes or trainers, I would be thinking "how cool". If you had a pair of ballet pumps on, I probably wouldn't notice - and that applies to me as well. Ballet pumps are de rigeur and no one looks twice unless they have funked up the outfit and the emphasis is not the shoes. But it's these little touches which keep you on the ball. And if I saw you in the playground with a pair of NB's or skate shoes, you're the mum I'd be watching each day for your style. I know what you're saying about growing old gracefully but sometimes it can be a little boring. Go on ... live a little :o)

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  11. I know what you mean Sharron! I'm going to be 47 this year so close to the half century - groan - HOWEVER, you know you look fantastic and you are right to be very careful with trends BUT it really does not hurt to give these trends a chance at updating the outfits you already have if you love so much. Trends come and go by their very nature but if something works for me, I'll take it on and keep it. The balance and skates look so good and if they're comfy as well, I'd get some too - sadly trainers never look good on my feet/legs no matter what brand or colours and the skate shape make my wide/short feet look even wider so I'm sticking to slipper/loafer styles. Give them a go! I would not say that about just any old trend that comes floating by.... :-)

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  12. I had a pair when I was 25 and I wore them to death. I have always had one pair on the go over the years and now at 41 have three pairs (one bright red). I don't care what I look like, for me they are the most comfortable trainers I know of, but I have to say the bright red ones do give my jeans a bit of a pop!

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  13. Was thrilled to pick up a pair of skater shoes on sale in Gap at weekend. I think they really perk up otherwise ordinary enough outfits (ie jeans and jumper/top). So go for it!

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  14. What an interesting post! I think what a lot of the previous commenters have failed to take into account is that you have daughters in their late teens and early 20s. That does make a difference. I have a pal whose daughter is 21 and although my pal is a rockin' trendy gal, she does pause before she purchases, for fear that she'll end up in the same stuff as her daughter's friends. Not cool! Personally I don't get the trainer look - for me, they're just gym wear. End of. But the skate shoe I'm really warming to and I think that's a look you could definitely pull off, as when I look at them I can see them on feet from age 6 to 60! But follow your instinct ... it certainly hasn't let you down yet x

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  15. I think you should buy and enjoy them! You would rock them!

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  16. I agree, I think you should wear what you love what ever your age. I love the trend for trainers with dresses/ smarter clothes and this could work well.

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  17. Yes, I agree with Helen - I have nieces in their 20's and I do hesitate sometimes thinking that I've seen them wear similar stuff. I can imagine that if they lived in the same house as me and their friends were coming round all the time, I would be even more aware of this. At the end of the day Sharron, true style comes from confidence and is about wearing what YOU love and you know suits you - not following a trend that's suddenly all over blogs. If you know in your heart a look is not you, it will make you look the least stylish you've ever been. I experienced that with wedge trainers...and I just hated every minute. Great post - I have thought about it a lot since I read it first yesterday but wanted to sleep on it before I commented, Avril x

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  18. Wear what ewe love(life's too short to worry over immature young minds:-)& shine!

    X

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  19. Excellent post, Sharron, and I agree with every word you say - I too have to give myself a sharp talking to over some of the things I like the look of these days!! x

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  20. A great post. I tend to think that you can wear whatever you choose to as you age...as long as you appreciate your body shape, and expose less skin:) I think I've become far braver with my choices and because I feel more comfortable in my own skin, I feel more confident. What do I know though? Everyone my think I look ridiculous:) I certainly dress differently from most women over 40 here - but I can get away with it by being the crazy foreigner:) Trends are fine - enjoy them - just not all at the same time xxx

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  21. Ah, this is so funny! I used to work at Jigsaw and I remember those satin lace sneakers well. I think they were a Lanvin knock off? I always wanted the baby pink pair but never got them because I knew I'd trash them instantly.

    I totally agree with you on this. I think the slipper style pair are especially hard to pull off if you are a bit older. Well, I just say that because they originate from Vans which started off as shoes for skaters - and that is quite a youth oriented activity. I think a pair of nice trainers from another brand are totally fine though. As long as you don't wear them with a black pencil skirt and blazer... that is just all sorts of wrong.

    I think you should embrace the sneaker trend. It's comfy and affordable plus you could totally pull it off.

    xx

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