Tuesday, 20 May 2014

Mother Of The Bride



Have you already been the mother to a bride or is your daughter engaged about to get married either this year or next? Marisota have a short survey on their facebook page which gives you the opportunity of winning £100 in their prize draw and lets face it, at this time of huge expense, it would prove to be a welcome cash injection for just a few minutes of your time. The idea behind the survey is to give Marisota an insight into the problems any mother of the bride may face, from finding the perfect dress to the stresses and strains such a huge event can put on you and your daughters relationship.

You can find the survey here and I have to admit it made for interesting reading. As I answered the questions, I wondered just how much other mothers are involved in the wedding planning, was it more or less than it is for me? I heard an awful story from a client of mine who is due to be a bridesmaid for her future sister in law later this year, where the brides mother put her foot down over the colour chosen for the bridesmaid dresses! I can't imagine stomping my feet and having a paddy over anything my daughter chose for her special day, I have always tried to remember that it is "her" day, not mine, and to go with the flow over what ever she wants.

The question about my outfit reminded me of the nightmare I have had for the last nine months and I think my advice to other mothers of either bride or groom would be to stay true to your style and go with your heart if you find something you love. You won't know for sure till you try it on and that is where online retailers come into their own, you can order a few outfits/dresses and compare at your leisure. Marisota's designated Mother Of The Bride Boutique is bound to fill you with inspiration with a range of gorgeous outfits to suit all shapes and sizes and the good news is all clothes come in sizes 12 to 32!

I'd love to hear about your experiences either past or present and if you have any friends or family who have children about to get married please put them in touch as there are lots of exciting things coming up on the agenda!

26 comments:

  1. It must be getting pretty exciting for you now Sharron as the big day approaches & I can't wait to see al the pictures. Such a special & also stressful time I'm sure but hopefully you can all enjoy the countdown!
    Jane xx
    My Midlife Fashion

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    1. Exciting and scary Jane, coming round so quick!

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  2. Interesting post and survey Sharron. I think there are always squabbles when it comes to wedding planning and families, then throw fashion into the equation as well ...! I choose my wedding dress and bridesmaid dresses on my own and my family choose their own outfits. It was in fact my dad who was a law unto himself not my mum! x

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    1. That is a surprise Keri, I can't imagine a Dad putting his two penny worth in!

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  3. This is bringing back SOOOO many memories Sharon! 14 years ago I got married and I can still hear the panic that my mother had with WHAT TO WEAR and who to co-ordinate with (mother in law and all her sisters) - I have never known such a drama. Hers over shadowed mine. I was a bit of a bridezilla but what do they call it when the mother of the bride becomes OVER POWERING with stress about HER outfit?!!

    I adore Marisota - if you can't find anything there then there is no hope!

    Fiona (who will never panic about being the mother of the groom!)
    x

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    1. Oh blimey Fiona, sounds like a worse saga than my dress search which I bored you all senseless with! x

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  4. Lovely post Sharron, I wished I had read some thing like from a fantastic blog
    like yours when my Daughter got married as I found it difficult to choose outfit
    being the Mother of the Bride with no guidance.
    I wanted a perfect choice for not only the most important day of my Daughters
    life but also mine
    Loving this blog....

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    1. Yes totally agree, it does feel pretty important for me too!

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  5. I think you Re going to be a top top expert on bride's mums wear when you've finished. Really excited to see the pictures next month xx

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    1. I will be beyond excited to share it with you all Donna, I am going to get one of my friends to take charge of my phone on the day! Make sure you are on instagram! x

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  6. I remember when I was shopping with my mum for her mother of the bride outfit in Cheltenham and how I ended up shed a tear when she found the perfect outfit!! The whole build up to wedding is full amazing memories! Enjoy every moment Sharron xx

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    1. That is unusual Michelle, it was obviously a massive relief which finding mine was after such a long search! x

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  7. Oh my goodness, this really does bring back so many memories. I remember my late mother seriously panicking over what to wear (not in quite the same way as Fiona's mum!!) but it's understandable that the mother of the bride wants to look wonderful ... it's a big day for her too. Of course, I only fully understand that now .. now that I have a daughter of my own! Love reading about the countdown to the Big Day in your house xx

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    1. Ah thanks Helen, I'm worried I am boring you senseless sometimes and hold back from writing more about our adventures x

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  8. I made it easy for my mum and got married in secret...she still thanks me for it as I was one of 4 and her head was melted dressing for the other three weddings! Exciting to think I'm going to be a MOTB myself some day....tho incredibly SCARY to think that I'll likely be in my 60's when it happens. I'll be more concerned with what colour zimmer to take down the aisle lol xx

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    1. Ha a coloured zimmer, now I am really laughing! You will be as vibrant and stylish as ever honey, sadly I might be dead and never see it! x

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  9. One word "nightmare". I managed to find a wonderful outfit for my daughter's wedding 5 yrs ago however have just been out this morning looking for a mother of the groom outfit for this August. Nothing I liked. Most dresses no sleeves or much too short. The search continues.

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    1. Have you seen the couple I put on my Mother of the Bride page? or the Hobbs one in a previous post "the tale of two Hobbs dresses"? Might give some inspiration as I am so with you on the sleeve issue!

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  10. My little sister got married two years ago in Spain in a very cute but hot hilltop village church, my mum left it to the last minute and we struggled to find her a beautiful summer dress in August as all the best had been sold out so the tip I would give a mother of the bride is don't stress too early on but don't leave it too late and try on loads and loads of different style and you will find something stunning, my mum did but it was touch and go!! I am sure you will look so absolutely stylishly fabulous Sharron at your daughters wedding xxxx

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    1. I hope it isn't too hot when Chloe gets married, I don't want to be having hot flushes in my dress! That is good advice Frances as we all know come August the shops are filling up with winter stock xx

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  11. My 9 yr old has already said "Mum have you thought about what you're going to wear to my wedding?" HELL YES!! In all seriousness, if it's anything like her First holy Communion it will take 5 mins to find her dress and 5 months to find mine. She's so decisive and confident. Me on the other hand?!! ... Maybe I should start planning now.....!

    x

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  12. It was definitely more stressful for my mum shopping for her MOTB outfit than for me finding a wedding dress - it's a complex business!! Can't wait to see how you look on the 'big day':)

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  13. My mums outfit cost almost as much as my dress which is pretty scandalous, but it was the first outfit she tried on in the first shop we went to. Pity my dress wasn't as easy to find! Can't wait to see what you look like Sharron- I bet it's getting exciting now!

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  14. It really is one thing that stresses out the mother's of the bride. My tip would be don't go out of your comfort zone too much, it will prob be one of your biggest ever purchases, so make sure it's something you will get wear out of over the years to come. If you buy a big extravagant over the top number, you will look back at the pics in years to come, and say what was I thinking of? So I would say go classic, but not boringly so, all the way!! xx

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  15. I can't wait to see all the lovely photos. I am glad my child is only 5 but I have a stepdaughter fast approaching 20!! so you never know. H xx

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  16. Not long to go now & I'm so excited for you all! I will be just as much in a panic if my 2 ever get married especially if its in Tunisia as the weddings go on for days & I'll need a least 3 outfits! Oh my....I feel sick just thinking about it! Ax

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